WWW II

WWW has got nothing to do with war or the world wide web. It stands for

What Went Well

and

What Went Wrong
Bill used to say he takes the time between Christmas and New Year to reflect back on what happened in the year and “plan” a resolution for the new year.

It took me this long for the idea to finally sink in.

If you’re like me who made a new year’s resolution just because we’re just “following the crowd”, STOP. How about taking this time, as the year comes to an end, to ask ourselves:

What went well for you this year?

What is it about it that you like?

Can you keep replicating it and even improve and expand on this?
What went wrong for you?

Is it something you can re-right it?

What could you do?
Another thing I learnt is, to be happy and to live a happy life, LET IT GO! It is when we fight for something that gets us caught up in that “thing”. In my observation, men are pretty good at “forgeting”. They don’t hold a “grudge” as much as us women e.g. if they didn’t clean up the table, we react pretty quickly but they don’t react the same way we do; if we just LET someone overtake us, we’d be happier instead of fighting or finding ways to get even. Have you ever “won” a situation and the feeling was “so, what now?” So for me, I’m going to learn to let go. Another thing, it just takes too much effort to be (stay) unhappy. So, let go and let’s go and live life!

YELLOW!

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Drive a Ferrari

2 days ago, I met a guy who seems interesting until he said, he can’t stand a Ferrari. He hates the sound a Ferrari makes. “Annoying” was how he described it and I was like, “Dude, you are off my (dating) list now”. I’ve never thought about the sound of cars until my ex – a fanatic car enthuse – pointed out that “sound” = power, roaring engine power. That’s what (race) cars are made for. Power.

Another Ferrari “hater” is Robin Sharma. He wrote the book “The Monk who sold his Ferrari”. Well, no, the book isn’t about a dysfunctional Ferrari but about “fulfilling your dreams and reaching your destiny”. You know, a car (coach) takes you from point A to point B. Coaching also brings you from one point to the other.

The point I’m driving at are:

  • Isn’t it funny how we interpret things in our life?
  • And things or people along the way (help) shape our thinking about things?

I subscribed to Robin’s emails and in the last email, he wrote

I was up at 4:30 am today. Just this rush of energy pulsing through me… Birds sing. Flowers bloom in our back garden. Lush trees rise up high, in natural tribute to the awakening skies above.

No, I’m not a morning person but “Birds sing, flowers bloom” caught my attention. I mentally planted a beautiful picture in my head upon reading those words. I should have read his email 2 days ago because it was the Kocherball at 6 a.m. again which I told myself every year to go for the sake of photography but I missed it again.

Chasing Daylight.

Again, no, it’s not me but Robin recommended this book in the same email, a book by a former CEO of KPMG who was told that he has 90 days to live.

Last Friday – 15th July – was one of the worst days in history in my opinion. My day started with the news in the morning about a 31 year old Tunesian who drove a truck into the hundreds gathered to watch the French Bastille (Independence) Day fireworks on Thursday night, the night before, in Nice. I am a sucker of fireworks. Why would anyone be so insane to rob people of the joy and entertainment of a celebration and watching fireworks?!

And just before bed the same day, all news channels were showing a military coup in Istanbul against the democratically-elected president Erdoğan. The reporters appeared confused, not sure what is going on and why it is happening. That was unsettling for me. My only thought was “Is this the end of times? Is war coming?”

I should, however, have asked myself

What would I do if I know that my days are numbered?

Back to the book Chasing Daylight.

The author made his last 3 months his best 3 months of his life. Created his Perfect Moments. Robin suggested that Perfect Moments can be having “long hours of family dinners over a sunset to a trip to Florence to witness Michelangelo’s David before sharing the city’s best pizza in an off-the-path trattoria… forest walks or movie nights, epic conversations under star-filled skies or adventures to places you’ve always dreamed to be.”

Clock
What would yours be?

Happiness doesn’t just show up. Happiness needs to be manufactured.

Robin Sharma

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Drive

Gold inside

We are all heros and we are gold inside. That’s what this video said.

Here are a few “take away” from the video:

You need to go into the dark to come out into the light.

Push yourself because your life is the fruit of your own doing.

Most people live in a kind of a hynopsis. If there is no death, there is no life, there will be no transformation. If you want new insights in life, you will learn to keep dying.

Our life is not what happens to us but whatt we do with it so go and explore for yourself and follow your bliss – not being selfish and heinous. Go back and find out what made you different when you were younger, the thing that made you “lost in your own world”

Find a place where there is joy

and the joy will burn out the pain

Joseph Campbell

Do the things that scare you, stop fighting yourself but love yourself and face your fears and overcome them.

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Journey

Do what you like

I was OK until I saw the toilet roll hat on TV and nearly spilled the soup I was having. Who would have even thought of such an absurd idea?!

Chindougu 珍道具ちんどうぐ is made up of two words. Chin ちん means “curious” or “strange.” Dougu 道具どうぐ means “tool” or “device.”

https://www.tofugu.com/japan/chindogu-japanese-inventions/

Dr. Kenji Kawakami is the father of such “unuseless” inventions.  “He believed it was a new art form and everyone should be allowed to participate.”

One of his inventions I was amused with was the bodysuit mop for babies who are learning to crawl. That is exactly what my mother always said whenever she sees one of my cousins’ babies crawling that they (the babies) should use their time more efficiently. She would have been pleased if the suit was available when we were babies. Too bad for her.

Last night I met at least 3 other women my age who are successful, intelligent, pretty and independent. Another “attribute” we share, we are all singles. No boyfriends, no husbands, no children. We had interesting conversation and ideas. We are not odd. Nothing is wrong with us. WOO! We can blame the men we met in our lives or the (lack) of the chance-meeting. Yes, we know (who) we want but most of all, we can do what we like. We don’t need the society incl. our friends and family to determine what is right/good for us or how our lives should turn out. We don’t need that kind of life “others have” if that doesn’t make us happy(ier).

Instead I aspire to be Dr. Kawakami:

“Things that should belong to everyone are patented and turned into private property…the world of patents is dirty, full of greed and competition.” In addition, he waives the speaker fees any time he gives a talk and donates any money he makes from books and articles to his favorite causes.

There is a cause, a purpose to be discovered in our lives and it doesn’t have to be Susie’s!

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Screw you!

Do you know that the origin of “screw you!” was used in the prison where the prisoners are shackled or chained and to un-chain, you need the screw so in a way screw = stuck?! Admittedly I only looked this word up because of this TED video by Mel Robbins. I believe Prudes won’t even check out the video because of the title. I love it!

I have also fallen in love with Mel Robbins. Her talk specifically. If you want to start living, you have to stop staying stuck in the situation you do not want to be in. Simple but not easy.

While chasing after rabbits, don’t forget yourself.

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For Posterity

Brexit

Nice name. I wonder who thought of it.

We were told that the EU was to stop the countries from going to war together again. What happened?! Why did UK want to get out of this promise and agreement? Is that Boris guy secretly planning to go to war with its neighbouring countries and as a result create jobs: that’s what he said – jobs. And he has enough of bus drivers who don’t speak English. Perhaps he should ask which British person want to be a bus driver. He should also think, if there are no bus drivers, how are people getting places? Walk? Not go to work? He’s feeding them?
Before the EU formation, UK has always been a popular country for migrants. It’s such an easy way out to blame the EU and fear more immigrants will go to UK. Brexit or not, people will still go! especially when you offer free health care even to visitors. I was shocked when I heard that you can go and give birth in UK and claim citizenship or right to live in UK. Too easy! They should tighten their benefit to e.g. those who have paid into the welfare system etc.

When more and more Brits live off welfare, I bet the government will then plea for more people to go to UK so that someone will pay into their welfare system! Of course no one will say it now.

Instead of just choosing to leave the EU, I think they should have a strong politician who will fight and be louder in the EU committee if they think they are so disadvantaged.

Well, they say when there’s a left, there’s a right. When there’s a yes camp, there will be a no camp.

Whatever the result is, I’ll see UK/Brits in a different light. Many are telling me they only care for themselves. Just like years ago when they “conquered” the world and made colonies. When a war is too tough for them to handle, they flee. It’s like the man in the relationship who only want sex but doesn’t want the “drama” – everything is a drama.

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Mind your pretzel


I live in a country (I say country but it should really mean region) where people do not talk about the weather but the pretzel: today’s pretzel is good, it is too chewy, it is too hard, it is not fresh, get some weisswurst to go with it etc. The texture (and taste) differs also if they are from one bakery. We’ve come to wonder if it depended on the weather: dry day is better? Cold day is worst?? The mystery carries on.

I have of coursedeveloped that ability to discern between “good” and “bad”, and also yearn for one on some days.

We get to have them for breakfast once a week in the office. Normally I can’t stop at one.

My friend said that we can change our mindset to wean ourselves off (food) we desire. She no longer crave for chocolates and cakes and it is not strong will but changing mindset.

I can’t say that I managed to change my mindset on pretzels but I didn’t have one today. I had let it sit there trying to speak to me but I walked away from it.

Is this it?!

YELLOW!